Atmosphere, Ethos, and Communing with God

My friend Marti left a very thought-provoking comment on my previous post about Creative Chaos or Quiet Reverence that really sparked some memories. I started to share these with her in the comment section, but decided they deserve a post of their own.

First, let me share with you what Marti wrote:

My church meets in an old warehouse, or anyway, the anchor to a defunct
shopping center. It was ugly. The old-timers kind of liked that, as it
harkened back to the day when they moved from one school to another…
they didn’t want things too nice. Nobody EVER got married there. After
we paid off the mortgage, fixed the leakin’ roof, etc, God provided a
major donor who gave a $1 million anonymous gift with no strings
attached. The mission committee got a tithe of it, which was cool, and
a lot of other good stuff happened too. Sadly, giving dropped; this was
about five years ago and we’ve yet to recover. However, somewhere in
there the elders decided to use part of ‘the big taco’ (as the $1
million was affectionately called) to build a new sanctuary inside out
building. It feels like a living room. It has niches for prayer. It has
pretty, ivory-colored walls. I was glad we didn’t spend all our money
on this, but it helps to have a comfortable, attractive environment. It
makes a difference. So does our new worship leader, and particularly,
his adorable wife with the great voice who leads our singing most
Sunday mornings. We sound great with her leading us. And she can do new
stuff, old stuff, in-between stuff just as well. I’m glad God gives us
so many ways to worship.

As I read her comment, especially when she began describing her church’s current set up,  IMosaic_sign was reminded of the last six or so months of our old church plant here in Nashville (before it was decided the plant would merge with an already established Mosaic in town). We
revamped it after a jolting shift in our leadership, and part of the revamp was to completely change our approach to our "service" time. Instead of coming at it from a typical worship service mind-set, formatting it with music and then teaching, we instead approached it as if it were a giant Life Group (small group, or cell group; some now call them Community Groups). This one change in focus changed the whole dynamic and
feel of our times together, and opened the door for God to dwell among and within us at an ever deepening level. (please note this post continues after the jump — see below)

Truth was, we really were just and overgrown Life
Group anyway (about 30 of us at that time, I think) but we didn’t have
the community of a Life Group yet. What we really wanted, and needed,
to focus on was creating community, rather than creating another church
service. The best way to do that was to refocus our efforts on building
community first, then add the rest of the worship service elements
later. So we started meeting as a Life Group would meet — opening together in one large group with an ice-breaker and then a Scripture
reading, then breaking into smaller groups to discuss the passage/topic, finally coming back
together for the last 15 minutes or so to share our insights with everyone.

We revamped the space we had as well, turning the small television studio we rented into a large living room with old, hand-me-down (or thrown out)
pieces of furniture as well as donated pillows, rugs, and other such
living room accoutrements; in effect creating an atmosphere of warmth,
family, and home.  My friend Jamie, who is sick with talent (just
plain oozes talent period!) for creating powerful, attractive, dynamic,
inviting atmosphere was in charge of this aspect, and he did an
incredible job.

I. Loved. It. I absolutely loved it. It was an
amazing time. I had never experienced "church" like that — and never
have since.

I
think what our little MosaicPlant (I call it this to distinguish it
from the other Mosaic in town) stumbled into was what a "house church"
is really meant to be (including being reproducible). Nothing about it was conventional, and nearly
everything about it invited and welcomed anyone and everyone to
just hang out in the living room and experience God in the midst of
community. And we did.

I don’t think there was a night we met in that space, in
that living room, that we didn’t meet God there and experience Him,
perhaps even on a little deeper level than what we had before; that was true
for me, at least. I believe we created an atmosphere there, an ethos,
of communion with God; one that invited God into our space and made
room for Him to move and speak and settle in and dwell among and within
us.

It wasn’t perfect by any means. And I wasn’t perfect in it.
I still struggled with my brokenness, the damage done by abuse,
depression brought on by the deaths of parents and dreams, and the
frustrations of unmet (high, perhaps unrealistic) expectations
regarding the team. And all the others in the community brought their
own baggage, brokenness, and unmet expectations into the mix as well.
We banged against each other regularly and cut each other with our
jagged edges at times. But it was still a rich, dynamic time. It broke
my heart when the decision was made to end our Experiment and merge
with the other, already established church. What we created with God
there was unique and special. I have yet to see its equal anywhere.

I
realized recently that what I’ve been looking for in church here in
Nashville ever since is some form of our Living Room Experiment. I think it’s why
I sometimes long for that quiet reverence that can be found in high-er
church forms. There was something incredibly reverent about stripping
away all the eye candy and window decorations of Mosaic LA (the dance
and drama teams, artists creating during the services, loud large bands
and crazy videos and graphics) and getting back to the basics of
communing with God and creating community with and for others.

So today I tip my hat to the fearful and courageous leadership of Josh Shanklin. His fear led to much seeking of God and His
will for our team. And his courage infused us with courage to keep
going; to try to make this experiment work in the face of what would
have devastated and destroyed most church plant teams. I understand the
reasons behind, and the decision of, the merge and I respect both. But
I still sometimes grieve the loss of the Living Room Experiment, and
miss what we created together with God. And sometimes I wish with all
my heart that it had  been able to continue. I think we offered a
powerful alternative to conventional church — to even the Mosaic-LA
model of church — to a city in desperate need of something different.
And I hope one day I’ll get to be a part of creating such a place again.

In the mean time…. I serve at the pleasure of the King, in the place where He has set me for today.

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3 thoughts on “Atmosphere, Ethos, and Communing with God

  1. What would it take to start another “Living Room Experiment?” I’ll admit I’m naive, and I also don’t intend this as a challenge. Because what you describe here is very attractive to me, I’d like to know what it would take; it’s probably not so simple as I think.
    Maybe it’s a naive fantasy. What would church be like if people just didn’t even bother preaching about what we should be doing, and simply allowed God the free run of the place? Instead of “Oh, I’m sorry, God. Your turn comes at 11:37, when the worship band starts playing. Right now we’re having the offering, and then the announcements.”
    My thinking is that such a church may be very slow to get going, but after a while it would really move out. Then, history says that it would succumb to the paralysis of organization but by that time some new people would start their own. I think this is why people don’t live forever.
    You have all kinds of people out there. Some are strong, some look strong, some are weak. Church is usually designed by the strong, for the strong. Those who are weak, or simply not strong in ways the church expects, end up burdened by a list of requirements. This is something God never does; he leads the weak so that they become stronger… assuming they can hear His voice amid all the rest of the noise.
    Sometimes I think about starting such a meeting myself. I lack the genuine caring for others that would be required, and I’m not very patient. Someday, maybe.

  2. It sounds like the great thing about the living room experiment was that it was like a life group – which suggests to me, anyway, that even if a ‘Sunday’ (or whenever) service cannot live up to what one hopes for, as the best of what church is made to be, perhaps the ambition for a great life group is one that can be more often realized? The one I’m part of now is, indeed, great – and that’s made my Sundays better too. I love the way my small group works so much I want to write down all that’s great about it and encourage others to start them like ours, too. (Maybe I will blog about it!)
    At any rate… most every one of us has a living room, even if most of us don’t have a church that feels like a living room.

  3. Larry,
    As far as I know it would only take a small team willing to try, and willing to completely commit to seeing it through.
    Granted, starting a church plant is not easy or simple. You need a set of core values and the foundational theology upon which your church will stand, as well as where the church stands on various issues — and what action will be taken when certain major issues arise.
    You also need to spend a good amount of time — 6 months to a year, longer if necessary — just building team community, going over all the core values, theology and stances on issue with the core team, making sure that everyone’s on the same page and understands, and agrees on the essentials (but not necessarily the secondary stuff). But most importantly, that time needs to be spent creating a safe, grace-based community within the core team.
    We didn’t do that in the beginning. We had a leader when we first arrived in Nashville that thought we should just hit the ground running and let the community just naturally form. It frustrated the hell out of me because I had huge expectations that we’d spend at least 6 months team building and working through the core values and theology. I was about ready to quit when the leader had a personal crisis with his family and left us.
    To his immense credit, our co-leader Josh took over leadership even though he really didn’t want it, and took us back a few notches. Most of the core team met regularly for about two or three months and began working on community between ourselves (forming the first small life group we had) while also revamping the “service” to become that living room experiment.
    We still didn’t get it right — we left out a couple of people from the core team from that small life group because we couldn’t make the schedules match. I was eventually shut out of the core group for the same reason (I worked full time during the day, while the rest worked coffee house/barrista schedules), which is how the decision to merge with the other church came about without me having an input into it. And also frustrated the hell out of me because I wanted to be involved; that’s why I moved my life out here.
    We also didn’t create a real grace-based community; but we did the best we knew how, and could, under the circumstances.
    Obviously we didn’t get it right, but I think we gave it a good try for none of us having had any formal, intense training in planting a church.
    So that would be the other thing I’d strongly advise anyone wanting to undertake the Living Room Experiment. FIND AN EXPERIENCED, PROVEN church plant leader to lead your group. You could do it without the leader, but it will cost you a great deal in frustration, aggravation, chaos, and probably failure. You won’t have a solid team, so your living room experiment won’t last long. And may damage lives in the process — either in its living or in its dying.
    Okay. Looong winded answer to your question.
    Marti,
    I completely agree. I’ve found that even when the services don’t really capture me — whatever that means — or gel with my personality, if the small group experience is really good, it doesn’t fully matter.
    Or perhaps that’s better said, that it seems to change my perception of the the service time. Whereas, if both are not a good fit, I’m perfectly miserable.
    I’m struggling right now in my church because I had a great community group last year. But this church mixes it up every year, so you don’t get to stay with the same group — or multiply (one group into two) with part of that group, so you have to start building community all over again every year. It was too an experience jarring for me this year; and I haven’t been able to recover from it yet.
    On top of which, the church is undergoing subtle changes that I’m not sure I like; things that just seem “off” to me. I don’t know what to do… and with the community not fully gelling for me either… I’m feeling a little lost. I keep going because I told God I would stay there and serve until He made it clear it was time to move. And I also don’t want to be one of those church hoppers… but there are many times when I REALLY miss Mosaic LA.